By Rev. Laurie Sue Brockway
It's not easy to lose in love, or lose the one you love. Breaking up can initially leave you
almost comatose and as numb as a death in the family might. There is only one way I know of to
get to the other side of the pain...
crying. There will be many times daily that you will
have to
hold it together and pretend you are fine, but for the sake of healing your broken
heart, be sure to set aside time every day to cry like a baby! Here are a few ways to encourage
crying out those healing tears:
1. Crying in the shower
The shower is like a temple to tears. It is already filled with water. It is refreshing,
cleansing and revitalizing. The shower knows no difference between your tears and itself,
so there is a blending of waters that is very healing.
2. Crying over Sad Movies
Rent the saddest movies you know and those you've heard about. Watch movies about breaking up
and break downs in relationships. There is something oddly comforting in watching someone else
going through what you are feeling. They act out your inner most agonies and fears; they feel
tortured and restless, they find release and solace, they find resolution and healing.
3. Listen to Music that Makes You Cry Your Eyes Out
Another way to bring up some of the pain buried deep inside is through music. The sadness of Mary
Magdalene hangs heavy in popular songs, such as, "If I could See You One More Time" from
the Message in a Bottle sound track; "If I Could," performed by Barbara Streisand; and
"My Heart Will Go On" hauntingly song by Celine Dion.
Grieving the end of a relationship is a natural stepping-stone in healing a wounded heart.
But be assured, at some point your grief and heartache will transform itself into surviving a
broken heart, and ultimately with (some
introspection and reflection)
into transcending it. But for now, just let go and cry.
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About the Author
Rev. Laurie Sue Brockway is an author, teacher and contemporary clergy person specializing in
matters of the heart and soul. She is creator and instructor of
Create Your Romantic Resumé: A 30-Day Program to Transform Your Romantic Destiny,
an email course available exclusively at
www.SelfhealingExpressions.com.
She is The Romance Reverend ~ Soulful Love columnist for
www.SoulfulLiving.com.
And author of
A Goddess Is a Girl's Best Friend: A Divine Guide To Finding Love, Success and Happiness
(Perigee Books, December 2002).
About Rev. Laurie Sue's email course
This 30-day Self-Healing Expressions
e-mail course
guides you towards clarity about the love
you desire, as well as, provides many spiritual tools to draw in your beloved.
- Evaluate and be guided on how to liberate yourself for new love by releasing past
relationships.
- Learn an alternative approach towards love, while examining the traits you value in your
"ideal" mate -- from the physical, to the practical, to the spiritual.
- Deeply explore your preference on issues such as living habits, religion, work styles,
finances, compatibility, commitment, and personality -- to name a few.
- Learn meditations, affirmations and prayers for drawing in your soulful love.
Ultimately, you will gain clarity on many issues you probably hadn't considered before.
Finally, in a surprisingly simple manner, pull together this newfound clarity to create your
own personalized Romantic Resumé - thereby planting the seeds for the romance of a lifetime.
