The First Year of Grief:
Help for the Journey

Ellen Forrest, Canada, noted:
This course has validated much of what I've been feeling - allowing me to accept my feelings as normal and productive. Although I have more than a few supportive people in my life, none of them understand how losing my daughter has changed my life so completely. This course is helping me by addressing the issues I'm facing.

Kathy Ferguson, Canada, commented:
Very practical assistance as I work through my grief day by day.

Anonymous, Hawaii, noted:
I loved the layout of each lesson [for] the following reasons:
1) The materials were presented in a well-organized way -- and one which was not only readily accessible to sighted readers, but visually-impaired ones too.
2) Each element of the lessons provided many golden opportunities for personal reflection, meditation and grief expression.
3) The suggested resources at the end of each lesson were not only available to those who are blessed to be able to afford them, but also to those who are on fixed monthly incomes such as I am. In the three years since I've been a Net-surfer, I have never run across online coursework for the bereaved that is as accommodating, compassionate and thorough as that given by our grief-support counselor herself. Once I complete this course, I will recommend it to my family and friends who have lost a loved one by death.

Tracy Dresser, commented:
Marty, I wrote you last week about taking the online course. My Dad died 8 months ago. Thank you for responding to my letter. I have read your reply many times. I have so much gratitude for your insight and thoughtfulness in responding. I almost feel like I have won some sort of contest and finding you on the internet is the prize. I am sure that sounds very strange to you but I don't even know how else to say it. Well, here's the thing, I ended up joining the online course. I have found that it really can apply not only to the first year but at any time. Thanks for pointing that out! It is so awesome. I really, really enjoy reading the information. And even more than that, I feel that it has already helped me sort out some of the stuff in my head. My mom and I are doing it together (the buy one get one free thing). I have noticed a difference in her as well. Just realizing that I am not "crazy" is the biggest relief. When you said none of my issues seem abnormal, that made my day… As you said, "None of us are immune from loss." Or as my mom says it "None of us are getting out of here alive!" I can't believe she actually says that! Take good care Marty and thank you again.

Lori S., California, noted:
I am halfway through this course and it has been very helpful to me! I opted to receive the emails every day and for me, it isn't too fast. I absolutely love how every word hits home and is so helpful!

Elizabeth Owens, Virginia, commented:
My parents passed away within 15 months of each other. It is going on mysecond year anniversary of my mother's death and the first year of my fathers. I didn't know where else to turn to. I had tried an actual counselor who was not sympathetic with my feelings. These feelings are actually real and it may take "a lot" of time. Marty's lessons make sense. I sometimes think that she can read my mind. I would recommend this site to anyone.

Timotny Nickel, Pastoral Thanatologist, Pennsylvania, noted:
My specific reason for utilizing this course was to review it for possible recommendation with elderly widows and widowers. I found it to be solid in content and appropriate for their life situations. It is user-friendly and is formatted in an effective style.

Dr. Amy Blough, Virginia, commented:
Being a relatively young widow, this course has helped me identify many of my feelings and thoughts as NORMAL, not some aberration of my mind. I was taught to suppress my feelings. When my husband died, I was determined that I would grieve, and heal. This course has helped me continue on this path.

Gayle Gray, Georgia, noted:
Helped explain the feelings I was having, that it is okay and helped me make it through the first year.

Jackie Wimberly, Florida, commented:
Thank you very much! Your course supported me through the worst time of my life! I really looked forward to my e-mails. I have saved all of them so I can read over all the wonderful advice and loving comfort it gave me. I would definitely take another class with you and probably will in the near future. I will also recommend your course to others!

Nancy Rogers, Oregon, noted:
So far, I have seen all of the feelings I have been going through, and it has helped me to see that they are normal. I have been able to cope much better with the loss of my husband of 30 years.

Gayle Gray of Georgia, also noted:
Very helpful in telling you what you are going through and how to understand and handle it.

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Marty -- Thank you for the wonderful thoughts and support - it was very helpful with the loss of my mom. I feel I'm ready to go it alone [now]. Thanks, Jody


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Deborah La Torre of New Jersey commented:
Very Healing. My mother died on April 5, 2004. She was 87, disabled for years from crippling arthritis and angina. She died from liver cancer. We had a Memorial service in the town that she lived in for all her friends and family. It had always been planned that she [would] have a Memorial Service with just family at my sister's beach house in Maine. The memorial service was this weekend, but due to my ongoing challenges with lyme disease I was unable to attend. When I had to make arrangements to go, I realized that I could not handle a six-hour drive to Maine. My intuition told that would be best. So that's when I signed up for this course. I broke the rules and had it sent daily, which turned out to be an incredible comfort. I needed strength and comfort fast so thank you deeply from my heart for helping me cope with this difficult time. When my [grandmother] died at 90 years young, my mother felt such deep grief. Reluctantly, she had little patience for her emotional pain - it made her feel as if she was "weak". I helped her through that time and will never forget her words of wisdom that have rang so true for me, "Deb, No one ever loves you like your mother does." That was 18 years ago when I was pregnant with my daughter and I don't know how much I understood it then, but now it is crystal clear. The love of a mother is a very unique and multi-faceted experience, one that I will hold in my heart forever. Thank you so much for this amazing gift!

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Alfred C., Ohio, had this to say about the course:
I was very unprepared for the sudden loss of my mate. My emotions, after the numbness and denial were without rhyme or reason. Fluctuating up and down. I learned about this course through word of mouth. I am very grateful for the material covered in this course. It answered just about all of my questions about the grief process, emotions, feelings, reactions and spiritual thinking. The course helped me so much that I would not hesitate to recommend it.

Lisa, Ohio, commented:
This course is concise and to the point. The material presented can be found in grief books in more depth, but many people grieving, especially early in the process, are not ready to read an entire book(s). This course gives the griever a synopsis of [that] valuable information. I especially liked [Lessons] #10-Guilt, #13-Spiritual Reactions, #21-Understanding Different Grieving Patterns, and #24-From Surviving to Transcending Your Grief. The material is presented with much sensitivity, compassion and kindness! Thank you!

V Thomas, Ohio, noted:
The course very much helped me through my grief. I looked forward to each day just to read what was going to be said. [Lessons were] Useful, insightful, helpful.

Cynthia of South Carolina, told us the course was:
Useful. Supportive.

Patricia Scott, M.S.,
a Bereavement Counselor,
had this to say about the course:
Marty's work is concise and informed as well as warm and wise. I can wholeheartedly recommend it. I especially enjoyed the Moment of Reflection. The list of signs that one is progressing in Lesson 23 provides a rich tool for self-examination.

Steve George,
a Bereavement Counselor,
commented:
Marty's course brings together, in a logically consistent format, the challenges of the first year of grief. She has described, both sensitively and with excellent detail, the process of grief through time as well as the healing journey the grief-stricken enter upon.

Marty has described the responses to grief and normalized these responses in ways consistent with effective grief therapy.

Mara Goebel,
a Bereavement Dept. Assistant,
noted:
I thoroughly enjoyed each lesson's individuality and ability to inspire deeper thoughfulness and meaningful activities.

Leslie W., CT, commented:
I am really enjoying your service. It's one of the best I've been enrolled in and I have a lot of references. Thank you


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