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"Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear-not absence of fear."
~ Mark Twain (1835-1910)

Honoring Your Psychic Gifts: Fear and Responsibility

By Linda Pendleton

Intuition is defined as the ability to perceive or know things without conscious reasoning, immediate apprehension or understanding. It is your inner voice, or psychic awareness, your spontaneous knowing.

Our intuition is innate and a natural part of our lives. But many of us ignore, block, deny, or simply do not tap into this valuable resource. But why would we do this with a resource that can be used to help us heal, solve problems, and make spiritual contact with deceased loved ones or spirit guides?

Do you have fear of using your intuitive and psychic gift?
Do you keep your psychic stuff to yourself because you fear being vulnerable?

What do you risk by becoming "public" with your psychic abilities? It might be that if you use it openly, naturally, it gives power to other people to validate or invalidate you.

Some people may think you're "crazy." Does that thought scare you?

If you read the books of some of the well known psychic mediums, you will see as children they may have had challenges such as, "we don't talk about that," "it's just your imagination," "people will think you are nutty," " don't tell anyone what you see" ... "hear" or "know". Have you ever experienced that?

Code of Ethics for Spiritual Work
I do believe there is a "code of ethics" for spiritual work. Even though messages may come to us from beyond, I believe it is our responsibility to have ethical boundaries about forwarding messages to others without their permission. To do so may be an invasion of someone's privacy. But I also feel it is our responsibility as a receiver to try and deliver the message in a gentle and sensitive way. We do have to remember people can be vulnerable, especially those in grief. And many messages that come through are for those in grief.

I once observed an invasion of a couple's privacy at a healing circle. This couple was there to hear from two recently deceased loved ones, and that was apparent. A message did come through for them from the other side, but then before it was over, two other psychics in the room bombarded them with embarrassing information to do with the critical financial situation they were enduring, the things wrong with their sex life, the lack of communication within their relationship, hurt feelings against family, and so on. It was painful to watch their reaction to hearing all this presented publicly in front of thirty strangers.

I felt so bad for them as I saw their faces turn red in embarrassment, watched their slinking back into their chairs probably hoping to fade away, watching their emotional withdrawal as the psychics continued, and all the while I was enduring their public humiliation along with them. That was wrong. If these two psychics had personal information like that they should have given it to them privately. Before it was over I knew more about these two strangers and their lives, both good and bad, then I know about my next door neighbors. I'm surprised we didn't have their Social Security number before it was over.

But I also knew something about these two psychics, both new to their found psychic abilities: they were too enthusiastic and their ego was right up front, trying to impress everyone and apparently had not yet discovered or decided they needed to have an ethical code of conduct with their spiritual work.

What if Spirit is banging on your head to relay a message?
Have you had that happen? I have and I know others who have had that happen. Sometimes you may wonder why the message came to you in the first place. And then once you have the message you may have to figure out the best way to present it. What if you hardly know the person for whom it is intended? Then what? You may find in most instances, if you tell the person you have a message from the other side, they will want to hear what it is, even though it appears they may not be a "believer." And then again, you may have someone not wanting to hear the message at all. But that's okay as you've done your part as the conveyor of the message. Sometimes there is just too much static for a message to get through. You know how it goes, you send an email and it gets lost in cyberspace and you never know where it goes if it goes at all; same thing happens with someone refusing a message from the other side. It may be out there in the ethers, and some messages may get to the person it was intended for - in some creative way. As for you, you did your job, and your responsibility is over.

As we develop and use our intuition and PSI abilities, we experience personal and spiritual growth; we learn more about ourselves as well as about others. We become more compassionate, more loving, more attuned to the higher aspects of the universe. All the good things about intuition and spiritual growth take away the fear of having and using any psychic gift you may have. It is accepting and acknowledging fear and moving through fear which gives us courage. And with that courage comes a sense of freedom and a self awareness. We also may learn how healing and inspiring our words may be to another and that is heartwarming and helps remove any traces of fear we may have.

Copyright © 2009 by Linda Pendleton. All rights reserved. Excerpt from her blog post at

Linda Pendleton, medium and author, is the creator and instructor of se courses on spiritual contact and spirit communication:

Healing Whispers: Communication with Your Spirit Guides and Angels and Journey to the Heart: Exploring the World of Spirit.

And these Spiritual Healing eBooks:
A Loving Presence: Signs and Symbols From Your Angels and Spirit Guides
How Thin the Veil! 150 Years of Spiritualism
The UFO Phenomena: The Cosmic SOS

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Have you ever gotten an intuitive message and were reluctant to share it with the person it was meant for? How did you handle this?

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