Relationship Advice For Any Time of Year:
Spring Cleaning For The Heart and Soul
By Rev. Laurie Sue Brockway
It may seem wacky to think that a pile of old magazines or relics from relationships past that
are collecting dust can keep new love at bay, but clutter and memorabilia can impact your love
life. For single goddesses who are standing by for love, and even those of you who are in
relationships, I want to suggest that you utilize this stir of springtime to clean house in
your life, on all levels, and get yourself even more tuned-up for love! A good, soulful
spring-cleaning will bring you a fresh start for the season of love.
In order to truly be ready to engage in a relationship you have to be committed to bringing
order into your life on ALL LEVELS -- physical, psychic, emotional, financial, and spiritual.
It is often a process of gently releasing, letting go, identifying and giving up that which
stands in the way of letting soul love in. This includes unsuitable relationships and unsuitable
ties to old flames (you know the ones!). Let yourself mourn what you must leave behind -- an
important process, even if you are leaving a very alive lover! -- And then you can move one.
There is a very specific spiritual law that states, "Nature abhors a vacuum." Get rid of
something and something new can come in. All of the world's religions have specific ways to release
the old -- from body, mind and spirit -- and there is a reason for this. If your life is too
cluttered or filled up with "stuff", if your house is messy or your mind is disorganized,
if you are not honoring your body or your spirit, it very hard to feel connected to your own divine
nature. It is therefore difficult to create a life of your choosing.
This is the time to at least start to rethink your romantic game plan and slowly work your way
toward transforming -- or releasing -- the relationships that are not your soul mate.
The best bet for a fresh start is to make symbolic gestures in the physical realm. Clearing the
decks of dreck and disarray will help you create a healthy foundation for your life. And then,
a healthy foundation in your life will help you create the space for your true love to come in.
These things take time. Be gentle with yourself but start somewhere!
Try some of these
"Life Cleaning" tips:
Start with one drawer...
...then a closet, next a whole room. Rampage through your physical space, one step at a time, as
a symbolic gesture of cleaning up your life and making room for love. Take a big black garbage
bag -- or 10! -- and dump things. Give anything you don't need any more to the Garbage Goddess
or to charity.
Let go of memorabilia from past or failed relationships.
This includes anything that ties you inappropriately to the past, or to a love affair that is
long over. Naturally you want to save anything that is valuable or sacred, but pack it up and
place it in storage -- at least for now. You should not be looking at pictures of your old loves
on the mantle, or stuff that reminds you of them, while trying to get ready for the new. Keeping
a photo of your ex on display energetically keeps him or her around your house!
Make cleaning up your life a fun and rejuvenating ritual.
Play music, such as "I'm Gonna Wash That Man Right Outta Hair," and dance around as
your ditch the old the make room for the new.
Write an elimination list -- thoughts, items, relationships, "things" you know are in
the way of your soul mate success. Things you choose to release or transform for the highest
good. If you are ready to let things go, burn, flush or bury the list.
Adapted from "Create Your Romantic Resumé"
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About the Author
Rev. Laurie Sue Brockway is an author, teacher and contemporary clergy person specializing in
matters of the heart and soul. She is creator and instructor of
Create Your Romantic Resumé: A 30-Day Program to Transform Your Romantic Destiny,
an email course available exclusively at
www.SelfhealingExpressions.com.
She is The Romance Reverend ~ Soulful Love columnist for
www.SoulfulLiving.com.
And author of
A Goddess Is a Girl's Best Friend: A Divine Guide To Finding Love, Success and Happiness
(Perigee Books, December 2002).
About Rev. Laurie Sue's email course
This 30-day Self-Healing Expressions
e-mail course
guides you towards clarity about the love
you desire, as well as, provides many spiritual tools to draw in your beloved.
- Evaluate and be guided on how to liberate yourself for new love by releasing past
relationships.
- Learn an alternative approach towards love, while examining the traits you value in your
"ideal" mate -- from the physical, to the practical, to the spiritual.
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Ultimately, you will gain clarity on many issues you probably hadn't considered before.
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