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Funeral Thank You Notes for Expressions of Sympathy

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Help for Writing Sympathy Thank-You Notes
Help for Writing Sympathy Thank-You Notes
by Marty Tousley, CNS-BC, FT, Bereavement Counselor

Upon the death of a loved one, it is customary to send written thank you notes once other affairs are in order and you feel more up to the task. This 20 page e-book is designed to help you at that point and includes sample thank-you phrases, sample positive statements, and gratitude quotations to make this task more manageable. Learn more about this helpful guide and the other supportive grief-healing resources that come with it now.



Appreciation can make a day, even change a life.  Your willingness to put it into words is all that is necessary. ~ Margaret Cousins


Help for Writing Thank You Notes for Expressions of Sympathy


By Marty Tousley, CNS-BC, FT, DCC
Bereavement Counselor
Excerpt from her ebook Help for Writing Sympathy Thank-You Notes

Upon the death of a loved one, it is customary to send written thank you notes as soon as possible, usually within two weeks of receiving a gift. But if ever there is a time when you're entitled to ignore the rules of etiquette, or a time when immediate thanks is neither expected nor required, it is when you are in mourning. It is perfectly acceptable to express your gratitude for gifts of flowers, donations and other acts of kindness later, when other affairs are in order and when you may feel more up to the task. It is also appropriate to delegate this task to those family members and friends who are willing and able to do it on your behalf.

It may be helpful to decide first which people you wish to thank in writing, and construct a list of names and mailing addresses. Your list might include whoever officiated at the funeral or memorial service, pallbearers, people who sent cards, flowers, gifts, or donations, and anyone else who provided gracious gestures, special services or other acts of kindness.

Bear in mind that it is not necessary to send personalized, hand-written thank-you notes or letters to everyone on your list. It is perfectly acceptable to send the sort of pre-printed, generic cards you would find online or in a card shop, or to use the ones provided by your funeral home or mortuary.

Sending a thank-you via e-mail may be acceptable in some cases, especially if the recipient is a close friend or close relative, or if the gift does not warrant a more formal acknowledgement. Use your own good judgment, recognizing that if you can do so, it's always more thoughtful to send a regular card via land mail.

If you send a generic, pre-printed card, and you have the energy to do so, it is always gracious to personalize it with your own words, following the steps below; if you decide to include a note of your own, strive to be genuine, brief and to the point. There is no need to include any personal news.

As you compose your own thank-you note or letter, follow these simple steps:
  • Address the recipient personally, using his or her name: "Dear John" or "Dear Mrs. Jones."
  • Express your gratitude in a short, simple and heartfelt manner. Mention the specific favor or gift, say something positive about it, and compliment the giver for his or her thoughtfulness (or generosity).
  • Briefly describe how you will use the gift, so the giver will know how much it was appreciated.
  • End your note with a second "thank you" and a sincere good-bye, and sign your name.

Copyright © 2009 Marty Tousley, CNS-BC, FT, DCC. All rights reserved.

Marty Tousley is the author of these popular online grief healing courses and ebooks:
The First Year of Grief: Help for the Journey
A Different Grief: Coping with Pet Loss
A Different Grief: Helping You and Your Children with Pet Loss
How To Write a Eulogy: Guidelines & Examples for Paying Tribute to Your Loved One
Heartfelt Condolence Letters ~ With Condolence Message Samples



Continue reading! Read this Help for Writing Sympathy Thank-You Notes ebook in full for a number of sample sympathy thank you notes and learn about other grief-healing resources by Bereavement Counselor Marty Tousley here.



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