Help for Surviving Grief and Transcending Grief
The First Year of Grief: Help for the Journey
Understand the nature of grief and loss and their potential impact on all aspects of your life: physical,
financial, emotional, social and spiritual. Learn how to move through grief actively and
make the process of mourning a healing one. Find support and guidance in dealing with
the many facets of grief.
The Grief Process: From Surviving to Transcending Your Grief
By Marty Tousley, CNS-BC,
Anyone who goes through the grief process learns:
changes you. When you lose someone you love, you will never be the same. But within every sorrowful situation, growth is possible. Over time you learn that although a part of you has died, another part is being reborn, making you stronger and more capable.
You have a choice...
You can either give up and withdraw into your tragedy, or you can grow from the experience. Either you succumb to the pain or decide to transform yourself.
The choice to grow, to transform yourself is not an easy one. It requires work, perseverance and endurance. Like everything else in grief, it is a process, but it is what makes loss worth surviving.
Chances are that you would trade everything you could ever gain in a heartbeat, if only that would bring your loved one back. But that is not an option. The only viable alternative is to make your pain count for something.
What are some of the lessons you've learned from your grief experience?
All that happens to us in life is material for our own growth.
The death of a loved one
can be a turning point that alters your perspective on life. It is an opportunity to re-think, to question, to doubt who you were, what you thought you believed, how you used to live, and how you ordered your priorities. It is a chance to find meaning in your loss.
Finding your way through grief
is like emerging from the safety of a cocoon to begin the continuation of a new life in a different, unfamiliar form.
Such a transformation takes tremendous courage, effort and struggle, and it doesn't happen all at once. Like everything else in this
of yours, it is something that happens at last.